Throughout this year, several bloggers will engage in a conversation here and on their blogs — asking questions of each other and responding. Others are absolutely welcome to join the conversation, as well. Learn more about the ladies of Blogversation 2012.
When have you had an a-ha moment about your life? What did it take to get that insight or clarity?
I’ve blogged before about my friend Lara Zielin, a young adult author who as of this summer has three published novels to her name — and who went through a life transformation when she decided to end her unhappy first marriage.
Lara recently wrote a guest post on John Scalzi’s blog about the real story behind her new book, “The Waiting Sky.” In it, the main character, Jane, leaves her alcoholic mom in Minnesota to chase tornadoes with her brother.
Lara’s said before that the book was inspired by her own tornado chase, but in this post she writes …
What I’ve neglected to say in every version of this story—until now—is what storm I had to face when I went to Tornado Alley. Because, you see, none of us storm chasers are really chasing literal storms. Not in my experience, anyway. All of us are running from something. All of us are looking for chaos in the clouds because better it’s there than in our own lives.
If I’m honest, I’ll tell you that I was running from an unhappy marriage.
I was married right out of college to a good guy, a decent, hard-working guy, who just wasn’t…THE guy. And this truth—this unavoidable storm of honesty—descended on me in Tornado Alley. I think, when I went on that chase by myself in 2004, I still thought things were fine, just fine. I’m a Midwesterner, after all, and we are prone to impractical optimism.
If you want to read more about how the truth hit Lara, prompting her to go home and end her unhappy marriage, check out the rest of the post.
I think it’s a powerful idea, this notion of having reality reveal itself — especially if we’ve been carefully, willfully avoiding it.
So when have you had the truth present itself to you and what did you do about it?