Today is installment #3 in the “Things I Have Learned” series, with this latest list coming from Amanda Hirsch, a friend I met thanks to the wonder of Twitter.
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Amanda Hirsch is a writer and comedian. She lives in Brooklyn, New York with her husband, Jordan, their dog, Cosmo, and a lot of people with mustaches. See also: naps.
1. Trust your gut. It is ALWAYS right. Don’t take the job that gives you a sinking feeling, or stay in the friendship, or continue the hobby…. if it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it, unless you absolutely have to. If you have to stay with something that sucks, like a job, to pay the bills — plan your escape route and take steps towards the new, better thing you’re bringing into your life. There is energy in action guided by intention. A better you = a better world.
2. Speaking of which, “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” (Howard Thurman) >> YES.
3. Say what you mean. Don’t be a jerk about it, but don’t kill yourself pussy footing around, either. The other person can tell when you aren’t being direct. There is integrity in directness.
4. Milk chocolate is for suckers. Dark chocolate FTW!
5. There is no script. Make it up as you go, with confidence, knowing you will surely fail, and there will be moments of glory, and so it goes.
6. Don’t be a jerk. “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” – Maya Angelou
7. Once you eat local, organic food, ideally straight from the farm or farmers market, and experience how delicious it is and how amazing you feel when you eat it, you will never be able to look at food the same way ever again.
8. Stress is the source of most chronic illness in this country. Learning to relax is a gift you give not only to yourself but also to everyone who loves you.
9. Much of New York City smells like pee.
10. It’s important to enjoy your own company.
11. Letting go of expectations is the path to easing suffering.
12. White chocolate is NOT CHOCOLATE. Dark chocolate FTW!
13. Art may not save the world, but NOT making art doesn’t save the world, either.
14. Walt Whitman was right: We are large. We contain multitudes.
15. If you think you maybe shouldn’t send that email… you shouldn’t send the email (see #1).
16. When you’re feeling pissy for no good reason, you’re probably a) tired b) hungry or c) need to go outside.
17. Idealism is brave. Cynicism is cowardly. So-called “pragmatism” is usually cynicism in disguise.
18. You don’t get brownie points in heaven for finishing books you don’t enjoy.
19. If you’re renting a car in Hawaii, it’s worth the extra money to get a convertible.
20. While you’re saving up for that Hawaii trip, you can scratch the itch for tropical paradise in Vieques, Puerto Rico, for much less money. I highly recommend staying here: http://www.evamer.com/. But you should go soon before the island gets over-developed.
21. Speaking of tropical paradise, and completing my series of travel lessons: When booking a flight to San Jose, Costa Rica, be sure not to book a flight to San Jose, California instead 😦
22. It isn’t about you. What other people say and do – it’s about them. Not you. This may be the hardest lesson to learn.
23. You will inevitably disappoint people, so don’t live in fear of disappointing people. Don’t live in fear, period.
24. Brooklyn has the best pizza.
25. If you can’t get something out of your head, write it down.
26. Spend as much time as possible around people who energize you. Spend as little time as possible with people who drain you.
27. When you’re doing an improv scene, don’t try to figure out what it should be about — observe what it’s already about, and take that further.
28. Another improv lesson: if you aren’t having fun on stage, then no one can have fun watching you. Be relaxed, be confident, and enjoy yourself.
29. Corollary to #28, for non-actors: If you are relaxed and confident in your own skin, you will attract people to you.
30. Nothing melts away a bad day like being greeted at the front door by your wagging dog who loves you.
31. The advantage of overcast summer days is that green trees look more lush and saturated against a gray sky.
32. Jealousy is a road map to our desires. Whatever makes you jealous, is what you (secretly) want.
33. Being good at something doesn’t mean you necessarily enjoy doing it.
34. Yoga is a template for life.
35. True love exists.
P.S. Say it with me: “Dark chocolate FTW!”
Do you agree or disagree with Amanda’s list? Life teaches us all different lessons. What’s your experience?
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