Imagine a coach talking to a losing team in the locker room at halftime. Is it more motivating if he says, “You’re a bunch of no-talent losers and it’s no wonder you’re getting killed out there!” or “I know you can win this, so let’s turn it around and show them what you’re made of!”
After hosting a goal-setting session for about a dozen women, with career coach Lauree Ostrofsky facilitating, my heart feels full recalling the enthusiastic support these ladies gave each other all day.
I used to think, as many people do, that if we’re unhappy with ourselves, we’ll be driven to get better. And if we were all of a sudden content with ourselves, we’d stop doing anything.
I no longer believe this.
How can you prioritize making and maintaining friendships? Is there something you’re doing that you could ditch to make room for friendships, or could you make better use of downtime? Can you combine socializing with something else that’s already on your calendar?
Set yourself up to succeed this year by not trying to make too many changes at once, by focusing on your goal but not giving up if you slip, and by remembering why you want to make the change.
I have begun setting my passwords using motivational phrases so every time I log into my computer, it acts as a technological mantra.
Several years ago, The New York Times ran a column by Amy Sutherland, who’d learned the reward system of animal trainers and put it to work on her husband. She praised him for putting his clothes in the hamper, for example, and ignored… Read More ›